Yesterday was a very sad day for me, I had my last session with Rachel my awesome peer coach. My relationship with Rachel goes back at least 5 months, when I started my sessions with her, me having recently joined ICA, and, not quite knowing what to expect. It has been an incredible 5 months, full of self-discovery, fun, great to know that whatever happened during the week I had someone to bounce it off, and no matter what happened I knew that I would always feel better after our chat.
Rachel's final summary to me made me realise how far I have come both in self-growth and in ICA studies. Whenever I lacked motivation, or put things off I would imagine Rachel asking me whether I had done what I said I would and that would inevitably move me into action.
Thank you, Rachel for creating a huge safe space for me to come to every week. I will certainly miss our sessions.
Rachel's final summary to me made me realise how far I have come both in self-growth and in ICA studies. Whenever I lacked motivation, or put things off I would imagine Rachel asking me whether I had done what I said I would and that would inevitably move me into action.
Thank you, Rachel for creating a huge safe space for me to come to every week. I will certainly miss our sessions.
Todays class with Angela, after some of us had shared our peer coaching experiences, took an unexpected and very welcome turn for me. Somebody mentioned crying in a coaching session and from then on the rest of the session explored the meaning of "crying". I found out that some of us cry very easily and at anything, we are not looking for attention, and want to be left alone. Some of us feel uneasy in the presence of a crying client, while some will allow the client space to cry, and not get involved.
Crying, in itself can be seen as a healing technique. It is often used by children. They hurt themselves, they cry, they feel better. The best thing a parent can do is to allow the child to cry and thus learn to soothe themselves, without resorting to other people and things eg. food to "heal" them.
Self- soothing techniques are very important, by applying them, one is able to take care of oneself any place, any time.
Some of the techniques we mentioned, apart from crying, are: Laughing, Withdrawing, Sulking, Eating and as nobody else had mentioned exercise, I thought I had better mention it.
How do I self-soothe? Well, I cry, and I run, and sometimes I combine the two. Now while I have been doing this for years, and without fail, feel that the world is a better place afterwards, I have never thought of it as a "healing technique" Thank you, Angela!
I would like to invite you to reflect on the questions below:
Do you self-soothe? or do you need someone else to make things better?
How do you self-soothe?
Is that the best way? or is there a better way?
Crying, in itself can be seen as a healing technique. It is often used by children. They hurt themselves, they cry, they feel better. The best thing a parent can do is to allow the child to cry and thus learn to soothe themselves, without resorting to other people and things eg. food to "heal" them.
Self- soothing techniques are very important, by applying them, one is able to take care of oneself any place, any time.
Some of the techniques we mentioned, apart from crying, are: Laughing, Withdrawing, Sulking, Eating and as nobody else had mentioned exercise, I thought I had better mention it.
How do I self-soothe? Well, I cry, and I run, and sometimes I combine the two. Now while I have been doing this for years, and without fail, feel that the world is a better place afterwards, I have never thought of it as a "healing technique" Thank you, Angela!
I would like to invite you to reflect on the questions below:
Do you self-soothe? or do you need someone else to make things better?
How do you self-soothe?
Is that the best way? or is there a better way?
Shortly after my last post this quote by Nelson Mandela found its way into my inbox.
How appropriate and at the right time :
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us...And, as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give permission to other people to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
How appropriate and at the right time :
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us...And, as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give permission to other people to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
I have almost completed Foundation coach, advanced 1, and power tools in ICA classes and for a while I have been telling myself that I need to start the business building module classes. I have looked at the calendar and noted dates and times and taken time off to do the classes, and as the time of the class gets closer I inevitably find some excuse to not attend. I am too tired, I would rather do the Life Coaching CoP with Bill Turpin which happens to be at the same time, and so forth. Initially I believed my own excuses but it has happened too often now for it to be coincidence, so I have to ask myself the question:
"What is holding me back?"
I am not quite sure I know the answer, What do I fear? Is it success?
The same feeling seems to have creeped up with building a website.I have registered a domain name "Perfectbalance4life.com" and have had it parked free for a while. I feel that something is holding me back from advertising my services on the net.
Is it that maybe I may become too busy and that my life which feels "perfectly balanced"at the moment may become unbalanced and I may have to make some difficult decisions to get it back on track mmm I wonder! Or......Is it that the idea of "Selling your coaching" just does not resonate with me?
"What is holding me back?"
I am not quite sure I know the answer, What do I fear? Is it success?
The same feeling seems to have creeped up with building a website.I have registered a domain name "Perfectbalance4life.com" and have had it parked free for a while. I feel that something is holding me back from advertising my services on the net.
Is it that maybe I may become too busy and that my life which feels "perfectly balanced"at the moment may become unbalanced and I may have to make some difficult decisions to get it back on track mmm I wonder! Or......Is it that the idea of "Selling your coaching" just does not resonate with me?
